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T O P I C R E V I E Wefaki94hello everyoneme and my bf arent in the best phase right nowwe argue the most of the weekwe were planning to move together and to rent a house..BUT his parents decided to buy him a house(which i dont like)and i feel like i should follow their rules in some way.. like if i want to stay with him i should stay in that home that i dont like..also i guess that they ll visit us often especially in the beggining since they are excited with this house and i really cant stand thema anymore...we havent moved yet but there are already problems because of that situation..things would be better if we just rent a house me and him...so i m wondering if there is any transit right now that make things worse??here out chartsBY THE WAYWE HAVE weeks to make sexsince i dont want to go to his home(not the new one) because of his parents and i asked him to go to hotel and he didnt want that.eveything is going bad.THANKS IN ADVANCESynastry_ I'm outside Davison Chart Composite chart Stoika7Hi efaki94sorry about the situation and... I hear you, I would feel the same... I mean, if you are going to move in with him, why shouldn't you have a say to where/which house you will have to live in? I honestly dont find this to be fair and I wonder why you were not considered in the choice of the house...? this is just my personal opinion and feel to actually express my support for you!Looking at the Composite (didn't I already look at it in the past?) the Saturn/Chiron/Pluto t-square especially with Pluto falling in the 4th and Saturn falling in the 7th house, doesn't look too promising and suggests a power struggle/conflicting situation putting the relationship at risk, with the 4th house involved this may point to negative external factors as family environment.The transits situation is a bit complictated and doesn't look too favourable. Transiting nodes are square to Venus opp. Lilith, but they had just travelled through the nodes in reverse, so this seems a crucial moment when the future of your relationship will be shaped with no way back. Transiting Jupiter is conjunct Saturn opposite to the Venus/Mars midpoint conjunct Chiron and square to Pluto, so the t-square is triggered in a stressful way. especially tr. Jupiter conj Saturn square to Pluto is triggering conflicts, disagreements, power struggle, a very harsh wall is arising between you two and your individual choices are on opposite sides. Moreover, transiting Saturn is square to the IC/MC axis involving Moon and opposite Sun/Mercury. This is a very frustrating situation and your intimate and emotional exchange is at stake and being damaged by the current disagreements. With tr. Saturn square to the axis, external influences are in the pcture negatively, but it also casts a shadow on the relationship future.Transiting Neptune is square to the Nodes, giving a lot of insecurity about the future.There is a big compromise here to be established. The nodes square to Venus at this moment may help you find an agreement, but with tr. mercury square Pluto and opposite Chiron communication is very difficult, it may take another week before you may re-connect on a more harmonious way... even so, tr. Saturn will head to comp. DSC and then to comp. Saturn, so your relationship will be put to a definitive test. efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Hi efaki94sorry about the situation and... I hear you, I would feel the same... I mean, if you are going to move in with him, why shouldn't you have a say to where/which house you will have to live in? I honestly dont find this to be fair and I wonder why you were not considered in the choice of the house...? this is just my personal opinion and feel to actually express my support for you!Looking at the Composite (didn't I already look at it in the past?) the Saturn/Chiron/Pluto t-square especially with Pluto falling in the 4th and Saturn falling in the 7th house, doesn't look too promising and suggests a power struggle/conflicting situation putting the relationship at risk, with the 4th house involved this may point to negative external factors as family environment.The transits situation is a bit complictated and doesn't look too favourable. Transiting nodes are square to Venus opp. Lilith, but they had just travelled through the nodes in reverse, so this seems a crucial moment when the future of your relationship will be shaped with no way back. Transiting Jupiter is conjunct Saturn opposite to the Venus/Mars midpoint conjunct Chiron and square to Pluto, so the t-square is triggered in a stressful way. especially tr. Jupiter conj Saturn square to Pluto is triggering conflicts, disagreements, power struggle, a very harsh wall is arising between you two and your individual choices are on opposite sides. Moreover, transiting Saturn is square to the IC/MC axis involving Moon and opposite Sun/Mercury. This is a very frustrating situation and your intimate and emotional exchange is at stake and being damaged by the current disagreements. With tr. Saturn square to the axis, external influences are in the pcture negatively, but it also casts a shadow on the relationship future.Transiting Neptune is square to the Nodes, giving a lot of insecurity about the future.There is a big compromise here to be established. The nodes square to Venus at this moment may help you find an agreement, but with tr. mercury square Pluto and opposite Chiron communication is very difficult, it may take another week before you may re-connect on a more harmonious way... even so, tr. Saturn will head to comp. DSC and then to comp. Saturn, so your relationship will be put to a definitive test. stoika thanks for your repsonse.yes you have check our composite more than once..haha <3well to be honest at first i didnt even thinkthat i should see the houses with him and his parents because he didnt even ask me to go with them. but now i realised (like you) that this isnt fair . we had already told that we ll stay together when they were watching houses.and his parents knew that he is planning to stay with me.i feel left out for sure.by the way his mother told him that she will coming for sleep at night to his new houseand he told her that this is not gonna happen.so im not sure how annoying she would be and how privacy will i have.i feel like the only solution is to break up.and i dont even care like i did in the past.so you say transit saturn in our 7th would keep us together or break up for sure???should i try to stay with him at least??just your opinion.im already a mess so nothing can make me worse. <3Stoika7Transiting Saturn on DSC and then, later this year, on Composite Saturn may bring a closure because it will put a huge burden to the Composite Saturn/Pluto/Chiron t-square. This looks extremely stressful... I think it's possible that with these current transits you both will try to work for a compromise, but if you choose to keep the relationship transiting Saturn will trigger more conflicts...I don't feel to suggest you to break up, because this depends on your love for him and willpower to make it work out... but certainly transits are strongly challenging your relationship. With the reversal nodal transit to comp. nodes, any decision at this moment is crucial and there won't be any way back.As for the situation... I understand, since it is about his house, maybe you just trusted his choice or didnt feel to impose yours, which is fair, but the fact that he didnt involve you doesnt sound so fair to me....I can only tell you my personal experience... when my husband was given a family house and I was somehow forced to move in there, I really didnt like the house and the area, I just had negative feelings and never felt at ease in that house... well, I have got very sick, physically, while living in that house, and that sickness has ruined my life forever, even though then, a few years later, we moved to another house.... I'm obviously not saying that this is what may happen to you, but I just mean that sometimes it is better to follow our intuition about such things... and, in any case, to live in a house where you don't feel comfortable for whatever reason, is not something I would suggest (unless there's really no alternative, of course!)❤️Hikaru29@efaki94Probably because of the culture I grew up in, I actually don’t see this issue warranting a breakup. But before I make such a judgement I’m curious though... what about the house that you dislike so much? Do you feel that something is “wrong” with the place? I agree he should have included you in the house hunting since you’re gonna live there but did you voice out when he didn’t? You can’t assume he knows how you feel, ya? Also in your other thread you said you rejected his engagement proposal. You also said you didn’t wanna live together initially but now you do because you’ve become jealous...so my qn is: what kind of rs future do you hope to have with him? I think it’s good to search within yourself and have a talk. With tr Saturn on your DSC it will force the issues out. It will test your rs endurance and see how mature you both are in resolving differences, accepting obligations etc. Your comp Sun-Moon square is saying you need to work on understanding each other and be supportive.As for his mom, you should tell him your concerns that you don’t want his mom to be hanging around all the time and you need your privacy, then it’s up to him to draw the boundaries with her. What I’m saying is don’t be impulsive but have a rs talk first to set your expectations and clear the air. Breaking up should be your last resort.efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Transiting Saturn on DSC and then, later this year, on Composite Saturn may bring a closure because it will put a huge burden to the Composite Saturn/Pluto/Chiron t-square. This looks extremely stressful... I think it's possible that with these current transits you both will try to work for a compromise, but if you choose to keep the relationship transiting Saturn will trigger more conflicts...I don't feel to suggest you to break up, because this depends on your love for him and willpower to make it work out... but certainly transits are strongly challenging your relationship. With the reversal nodal transit to comp. nodes, any decision at this moment is crucial and there won't be any way back.As for the situation... I understand, since it is about his house, maybe you just trusted his choice or didnt feel to impose yours, which is fair, but the fact that he didnt involve you doesnt sound so fair to me....I can only tell you my personal experience... when my husband was given a family house and I was somehow forced to move in there, I really didnt like the house and the area, I just had negative feelings and never felt at ease in that house... well, I have got very sick, physically, while living in that house, and that sickness has ruined my life forever, even though then, a few years later, we moved to another house.... I'm obviously not saying that this is what may happen to you, but I just mean that sometimes it is better to follow our intuition about such things... and, in any case, to live in a house where you don't feel comfortable for whatever reason, is not something I would suggest (unless there's really no alternative, of course!)❤️ok i see.this saturn pluto sounds very hard.i prefer to end things for ever or to stay together happily. i dont like the between.so hope for this saturn to make things clear for us.well as i remember how the things happened now that im a little calmerhe and his mother saw 3 houses and of course he didnt invite me to join thembut maybe that have to do with him thinking that his parents may watch houses but they didnt have the will to buy him the house.i remember him complain to me that his parentswas only WORDS and nothing about action(TO BUY THE HOUSE) . they were talking about buying a house a long time till now but they didnt do anything.so he might believed that it wasnt gonna happen.after they had agree to buy the house but beforegiving some money to close the agreementmy bf asked me to go with them and check the housebut i didnt want because of his parents.maybe i want to justify him right nowin order not to think that he simply dont consider me in his choices.but if it matters he ask me to see the house.but even if i had went there and told him that i dont like the house i think it wouldnt make a difference.also after i realised that he should take my opinion into account i made a conversation with him and he said that he dont find something wrong in his behavior because its HIS parents who buing HIM a house and i dont have a word in that. so im just visitor in this house i guess. sure his was very pressed when he said that because we had already argue about other thing before but he still mean it.i see what you mean thereour instict rarely is wrongand we should follow it.sorry to hear thatare you ok now??efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29:@efaki94Probably because of the culture I grew up in, I actually don’t see this issue warranting a breakup. But before I make such a judgement I’m curious though... what about the house that you dislike so much? Do you feel that something is “wrong” with the place? I agree he should have included you in the house hunting since you’re gonna live there but did you voice out when he didn’t? You can’t assume he knows how you feel, ya? Also in your other thread you said you rejected his engagement proposal. You also said you didn’t wanna live together initially but now you do because you’ve become jealous...so my qn is: what kind of rs future do you hope to have with him? I think it’s good to search within yourself and have a talk. With tr Saturn on your DSC it will force the issues out. It will test your rs endurance and see how mature you both are in resolving differences, accepting obligations etc. Your comp Sun-Moon square is saying you need to work on understanding each other and be supportive.As for his mom, you should tell him your concerns that you don’t want his mom to be hanging around all the time and you need your privacy, then it’s up to him to draw the boundaries with her. What I’m saying is don’t be impulsive but have a rs talk first to set your expectations and clear the air. Breaking up should be your last resort.hello hikaruthanks for responsewell i didnt said anything at firstbecause i didnt felt like i should watch the houses with them .i didnt felt comfortablyi would feel a little outside to be therebut now that i see clearly it was unfair for me and after i discussed it he said that it wasnt my job to be therebecause his parents buying him a house.after thata told him that if thehouse was like a hutand i didnt like it i would be forced to live there because he and his parents choose it??!!and he repsonsed "you have free will to do whatever you want" so suddenly he dont give a #$%@ if we will live tohether.when some months ago he almost pleasing me to stay with him and not alone.the house isnt so bad but there is a lot of traffic and noises out there because its in the avenue when im used to live in almost a cottage area when rarely you see a car outside.i would like it if it wasa little calmer outside.i didnt refuse his proposal because he didnt do any. he told me that he was gonna do it after he had return the ring to the store.he changed his mind when he heard my opinion about marriage and engament.the truth is that i didnt want at first t stay with him but after some thought i change dmy mind.i try to make a conversation with himbut i simply canthe always says that i create problemsand always complainwhich is true sometimesbut he dont really listen me.Stoika7efaki94 ❤️well, it seems that things developed a bit out of your control and it's not your fault, I think that Composite Neptune square Jupiter has a role because it can create such unclear situations and insecurities about plans, actions, misurnderstandings and so on... but it sounds also that he really didnt encourage you much in being involved in the process... maybe without realizing and while being stressed out from his family?Consider that you have transiting Uranus conjunct composite Moon and square to Composite Sun... this happens as tr. Saturn is currently conjunct to Composite Sun and tr. Jupiter is conjunct Composite Saturn... the latter one is called "Grand Conjunction" and it usually happens when there's a big establishment/achievement. But with transiting Uranus square to comp. Sun, such establishement is happening in a stressful, abrupt and unstable way. With this transits, I would suggest you to not take a hasty decision which you may regret later. I think you may still give it a try to talk with him, make things clear, explain your feelings, insecurities and the misunderstandings... go see the house again and see what feelings you have. If he cares about you, he needs to show this and to understand your needs and doubts... this way you will see if he cares of you, I guess. I agree about not liking the between, but as I said, it depends... happyness sometimes is something we need to build up from both sides of the relationship, not something that you find already packed :-) But then, of course, if unhappyness is what prevails despite the efforts, then you have to make your choice :-)This year I celebrate the first one year I'm standing up and walking again after 18 years :-) Thank you for asking! Hikaru29 quote:Originally posted by efaki94: hello hikaruthanks for responsewell i didnt said anything at firstbecause i didnt felt like i should watch the houses with them .i didnt felt comfortablyi would feel a little outside to be therebut now that i see clearly it was unfair for me and after i discussed it he said that it wasnt my job to be therebecause his parents buying him a house.after thata told him that if thehouse was like a hutand i didnt like it i would be forced to live there because he and his parents choose it??!!and he repsonsed "you have free will to do whatever you want" so suddenly he dont give a #$%@ if we will live tohether.when some months ago he almost pleasing me to stay with him and not alone.the house isnt so bad but there is a lot of traffic and noises out there because its in the avenue when im used to live in almost a cottage area when rarely you see a car outside.i would like it if it wasa little calmer outside.i didnt refuse his proposal because he didnt do any. he told me that he was gonna do it after he had return the ring to the store.he changed his mind when he heard my opinion about marriage and engament.the truth is that i didnt want at first t stay with him but after some thought i change dmy mind.i try to make a conversation with himbut i simply canthe always says that i create problemsand always complainwhich is true sometimesbut he dont really listen me.It sounds like you and your bf have some misunderstandings. I noticed you have strong Gemini in your chart (we have ASCs conjunct btw 🙂 . This sign can appear to flip-flop at times and he may feel confused and think you’re trying to be difficult although that’s not your intention. Why don’t you try using a different communication approach? Being Leo Suns you are both proud. His Aries Moon gives him an impulsive/brash nature but his Virgo stellium shows his very analytical side and he may not be comfortable with emotional drama.Your composite Moon square Mercury and Mercury-Pluto-Saturn also forms a t-square showing difficulty in communication. On one hand you’re not clear in expressing yourselves, on the other hand you don’t give each other air time, more eager to prove each other wrong. His Mercury in analytical Virgo while yours in emotionally driven Cancer so my advice is to work on understanding each other’s communication styles and thought processes. Why don’t you try spending a few nights at his new place and maybe you will grow to like it? Since you can’t choose the place but I’m sure you have a say in the deco? A lot of times relationship is about coming in-between, compromising, sacrificing... sometimes one will compromise/sacrifice more than the other but there should be a balance. There are very very few perfectly happy couples out there based on my observation, which is to say I’ve never seen a perfect chart. Hikaru29 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:This year I celebrate the first one year I'm standing up and walking again after 18 years :-) Thank you for asking! Stoika, I feel really happy for ya! 🙂 Stay well. Btw I meant to tell you that you were right about your prediction that you saw tension and separation transits for me and my guy. We had several fights over the last 2 months and I almost broke up with him, but we managed to reconcile, cleared the air about some mounting misunderstandings I had of him so now we’re much calmer and sweeter. The glue is still strong. *Fingers crossed*. ✌🏼efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:efaki94 ❤️well, it seems that things developed a bit out of your control and it's not your fault, I think that Composite Neptune square Jupiter has a role because it can create such unclear situations and insecurities about plans, actions, misurnderstandings and so on... but it sounds also that he really didnt encourage you much in being involved in the process... maybe without realizing and while being stressed out from his family?Consider that you have transiting Uranus conjunct composite Moon and square to Composite Sun... this happens as tr. Saturn is currently conjunct to Composite Sun and tr. Jupiter is conjunct Composite Saturn... the latter one is called "Grand Conjunction" and it usually happens when there's a big establishment/achievement. But with transiting Uranus square to comp. Sun, such establishement is happening in a stressful, abrupt and unstable way. With this transits, I would suggest you to not take a hasty decision which you may regret later. I think you may still give it a try to talk with him, make things clear, explain your feelings, insecurities and the misunderstandings... go see the house again and see what feelings you have. If he cares about you, he needs to show this and to understand your needs and doubts... this way you will see if he cares of you, I guess. I agree about not liking the between, but as I said, it depends... happyness sometimes is something we need to build up from both sides of the relationship, not something that you find already packed :-) But then, of course, if unhappyness is what prevails despite the efforts, then you have to make your choice :-)This year I celebrate the first one year I'm standing up and walking again after 18 years :-) Thank you for asking! right he didnt encourage me i think he didnt even think about itand thats the worse.but does it matter that when i went to the house with his parents there he started asking me about what furniture should we have??in front of his parents??i mean this seems good maybe??or i just want to justify him again.hahaalso like he said he made it clearly (he said) to his parents that he is going to decorate the house with me so to not planning anything by themselves.Ok i see.thanks for explaining to me this transits it sounds really "heavy" with uranus and saturn butcould this establishment happen after that transit you think?right i wont take any decision yet because we already have two days to talk and i check my phone for his call all day. hahathats really great .. so happy for that. <3efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: It sounds like you and your bf have some misunderstandings. I noticed you have strong Gemini in your chart (we have ASCs conjunct btw 🙂 . This sign can appear to flip-flop at times and he may feel confused and think you’re trying to be difficult although that’s not your intention. Why don’t you try using a different communication approach? Being Leo Suns you are both proud. His Aries Moon gives him an impulsive/brash nature but his Virgo stellium shows his very analytical side and he may not be comfortable with emotional drama.Your composite Moon square Mercury and Mercury-Pluto-Saturn also forms a t-square showing difficulty in communication. On one hand you’re not clear in expressing yourselves, on the other hand you don’t give each other air time, more eager to prove each other wrong. His Mercury in analytical Virgo while yours in emotionally driven Cancer so my advice is to work on understanding each other’s communication styles and thought processes. Why don’t you try spending a few nights at his new place and maybe you will grow to like it? Since you can’t choose the place but I’m sure you have a say in the deco? A lot of times relationship is about coming in-between, compromising, sacrificing... sometimes one will compromise/sacrifice more than the other but there should be a balance. There are very very few perfectly happy couples out there based on my observation, which is to say I’ve never seen a perfect chart. right hikaru there are few times that we dont misunderstand the other. out communication seems very hard the most of the time .aww you are a gemini asc tooso you know ..hahato be honest i feel more like a piscesthan leo or gemini..dont know why,but i see your pointand the truth is that my bf had told me that in the pastthat he cant always predict and trust my feelings and words.it takes so much time for us to get over a fightlike we have to argue for the same thing for days till we have to take a break and not talk to each one for some daysand after that we may talk a little calmer and find a between solutionbut the same thing happens every timeevery diasagree lead to argue and its like talking to the wall.he dont take my feeelings seriously i think thats the problem.the truth is that he havent moved yetbecause there is some paper work before thatbut im planning to do soif we dont break it up till thenyou are right about the decorationhe said me the same thingi hope he meant itthat we are gonna decorate the house as we wantthere is another problem alsomy grandma have two catsand i wanted to take the onebecause is to much for herbut also i dont want to separete thembecause they are friendsand of course my bf dont want two catsefaki94 .Stoika7 quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Stoika, I feel really happy for ya! 🙂 Stay well. Btw I meant to tell you that you were right about your prediction that you saw tension and separation transits for me and my guy. We had several fights over the last 2 months and I almost broke up with him, but we managed to reconcile, cleared the air about some mounting misunderstandings I had of him so now we’re much calmer and sweeter. The glue is still strong. *Fingers crossed*. ✌🏼Hi darling, thank you for sharing the happyness :-))Well, I am glad you guys reconciled, you are aware that there are those unstable aspects in your Composite and so, depending on transits, those ups and downs can resurface, but you always seem to manage things well in the end! If you need any help, feel free to write me! ❤️❤️❤️Stoika7Well I guess he trusts you more than he trusts his parents about the furnitures, lolWho knows, maybe he just assumed you would be happy about the whole house thing and didnt realize he was actually keeping you in the fog... and it all depends also on what kind of relationship he has with his parents, but it would be crazy if he didnt even involve you in the furniture choice!I think transiting Saturn will make the whole process stressful, but Saturn square Pluto sometimes can also bring a struggle for resolution/success/achievement, especially with tr. Jupiter conjunct Saturn in the picture, that's why I am saying to give this whole house thing a chance before taking extreme decisions... it all looks like a major test to your relationship and it will work out if you both care enough to make efforts in your relationship.Give us updates ❤️Hikaru29 quote:Originally posted by efaki94: right hikaru there are few times that we dont misunderstand the other. out communication seems very hard the most of the time .aww you are a gemini asc tooso you know ..hahato be honest i feel more like a piscesthan leo or gemini..dont know why,but i see your pointand the truth is that my bf had told me that in the pastthat he cant always predict and trust my feelings and words.it takes so much time for us to get over a fightlike we have to argue for the same thing for days till we have to take a break and not talk to each one for some daysand after that we may talk a little calmer and find a between solutionbut the same thing happens every timeevery diasagree lead to argue and its like talking to the wall.he dont take my feeelings seriously i think thats the problem.the truth is that he havent moved yetbecause there is some paper work before thatbut im planning to do soif we dont break it up till thenyou are right about the decorationhe said me the same thingi hope he meant itthat we are gonna decorate the house as we wantthere is another problem alsomy grandma have two catsand i wanted to take the onebecause is to much for herbut also i dont want to separete thembecause they are friendsand of course my bf dont want two catsYour Mercury opposes Neptune and Venus trine Neptune...maybe that’s why you feel like a Pisces. With Mercury opposite Neptune you need to watch out for flawed perception of reality. Sometimes you may be confused what’s real and what’s background noise in your mind, resulting in unclear communication... yet Uranus opposite Mercury can lead to over-stimulation of mind. His Virgo Mercury is matter-of-fact and detailed and it quincunx Saturn restricting his mindset so I think that’s why you have a hard time understanding each other.His Mercury is closely square your Moon. Read this from cafeastrology:“Mercury needs to guard against the tendency to be critical, unsympathetic, and overly analytical of Moon’s feelings, personal tastes, and habits. Mercury may feel that Moon is overly sensitive to criticism, and refuses to acknowledge responsibility for the problem as well. Petty annoyances, minor disagreements, and bickering can be avoided only if you both learn to listen sympathetically and to communicate clearly with each other. Avoid focusing on “syntax errors” with each other. How things are said are not as important as the meaning behind them. Taking things too personally can get in the way of true communication.”Your Mercury is in square sign to his Moon too actually so that’s a DW, that’s why this is showing up in your composite. I believe the way to get around your communication issue is to first seek to understand. Clearing the air of past issues will be a good start. Also read up on the differences between Virgo and Gemini. These two signs seem to have a high level of attraction as both are mutable and ruled by Mercury, but they’re in square signs so some work is needed. https://www.astrology.com/love/compatibility/gemini-virgo.html Good luck! 🙂Hikaru29 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7: Hi darling, thank you for sharing the happyness :-))Well, I am glad you guys reconciled, you are aware that there are those unstable aspects in your Composite and so, depending on transits, those ups and downs can resurface, but you always seem to manage things well in the end! If you need any help, feel free to write me! ❤️❤️❤️Amazingly, yes, we always come back to each other and it’s largely his effort, I must say. He has been more persevering than me. Remember you said you saw some kind of biz arrangement between us? Well, the plans are taking shape. He’s taking the lead and making things happen. I’m not sure if that’s his way of keeping me in his life but the venture benefits me so I’m keen. Can you help me take a look at the transits and how our working rs will be like? It’s not a strictly-structured full-time arrangement which means he’s giving me a lot of work flexibility. I’ll write to you on this. 🙂 💕efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Well I guess he trusts you more than he trusts his parents about the furnitures, lolWho knows, maybe he just assumed you would be happy about the whole house thing and didnt realize he was actually keeping you in the fog... and it all depends also on what kind of relationship he has with his parents, but it would be crazy if he didnt even involve you in the furniture choice!I think transiting Saturn will make the whole process stressful, but Saturn square Pluto sometimes can also bring a struggle for resolution/success/achievement, especially with tr. Jupiter conjunct Saturn in the picture, that's why I am saying to give this whole house thing a chance before taking extreme decisions... it all looks like a major test to your relationship and it will work out if you both care enough to make efforts in your relationship.Give us updates ❤️haha ..i guess.. if he didnt ask me at least about the furniture i dont know what i would do..he seems close to his family but he knows to set boundaries from what i seethe thing im afraid of is that he might feelthat he "owe them" for buying him the house in some wayso i hope that he wont change his behavior to them..hope for the best side of saturnhahai ll keep you posted ..in one two months i hopeto have a better view of the situation...thanks a lot stoika for one more time <3wish u the best!!!efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Your Mercury opposes Neptune and Venus trine Neptune...maybe that’s why you feel like a Pisces. With Mercury opposite Neptune you need to watch out for flawed perception of reality. Sometimes you may be confused what’s real and what’s background noise in your mind, resulting in unclear communication... yet Uranus opposite Mercury can lead to over-stimulation of mind. His Virgo Mercury is matter-of-fact and detailed and it quincunx Saturn restricting his mindset so I think that’s why you have a hard time understanding each other.His Mercury is closely square your Moon. Read this from cafeastrology:[b]“Mercury needs to guard against the tendency to be critical, unsympathetic, and overly analytical of Moon’s feelings, personal tastes, and habits. Mercury may feel that Moon is overly sensitive to criticism, and refuses to acknowledge responsibility for the problem as well. Petty annoyances, minor disagreements, and bickering can be avoided only if you both learn to listen sympathetically and to communicate clearly with each other. Avoid focusing on “syntax errors” with each other. How things are said are not as important as the meaning behind them. Taking things too personally can get in the way of true communication.”Your Mercury is in square sign to his Moon too actually so that’s a DW, that’s why this is showing up in your composite. I believe the way to get around your communication issue is to first seek to understand. Clearing the air of past issues will be a good start. Also read up on the differences between Virgo and Gemini. These two signs seem to have a high level of attraction as both are mutable and ruled by Mercury, but they’re in square signs so some work is needed. https://www.astrology.com/love/compatibility/gemini-virgo.html Good luck! 🙂[/B]yeah you r right thats why my mind might work like a pisce's hahamy bf tend to tell me that i have unrealistic dreams (for example because i want to leave the city and live in new zealand someday) and he accuse me for that like i live in my own world..so he seems too realistic sometimesby the way he has a wide trine of uranus mercury shouldnt he be more open mind and chill?By the way me as a virgo venus shouldn't relate more to his tastes and opinions?? this description of mercury mooncouldnt describe the situation better.sad truth.i ll make a research about gemini virgo like you saidto delight me hahahope to find a way to reallt commuicate withhimthank you very much hikaru!! i ll come in this post when i ll have news!!Hikaru29 quote:Originally posted by efaki94: yeah you r right thats why my mind might work like a pisce's hahamy bf tend to tell me that i have unrealistic dreams (for example because i want to leave the city and live in new zealand someday) and he accuse me for that like i live in my own world..so he seems too realistic sometimesby the way he has a wide trine of uranus mercury shouldnt he be more open mind and chill?By the way me as a virgo venus shouldn't relate more to his tastes and opinions?? this description of mercury mooncouldnt describe the situation better.sad truth.i ll make a research about gemini virgo like you saidto delight me hahahope to find a way to reallt commuicate withhimthank you very much hikaru!! i ll come in this post when i ll have news!!Mercury-Uranus relate to having a quick mind but in my observation I don’t see the individuals as necessarily having an open mindset, not saying you can’t be but this isn’t a trademark I see. Don’t forget he has a Virgo stellium and when someone has a stellium in a certain sign they’re gonna display strongly traits associated with that sign. My ex has a Leo stellium and despite his more sensitive/introverted Cancer Sun, he’s proud, egoistic, love in a big way...he walks in with an entrance and loves the attention.Venus rules our love styles, values and tastes so in this area you relate (which means to say you won’t have issues agreeing on how to decorate your house and spend time together 😉...) but don’t forget your Gemini stellium which squares Virgo. This shows that other areas involving your emotions, how you approach life/go about doing things etc are conflicting with his way of doing things.efaki94 quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Mercury-Uranus relate to having a quick mind but in my observation I don’t see the individuals as necessarily having an open mindset, not saying you can’t be but this isn’t a trademark I see. Don’t forget he has a Virgo stellium and when someone has a stellium in a certain sign they’re gonna display strongly traits associated with that sign. My ex has a Leo stellium and despite his more sensitive/introverted Cancer Sun, he’s proud, egoistic, love in a big way...he walks in with an entrance and loves the attention.Venus rules our love styles, values and tastes so in this area you relate (which means to say you won’t have issues agreeing on how to decorate your house and spend time together 😉...) but don’t forget your Gemini stellium which squares Virgo. This shows that other areas involving your emotions, how you approach life/go about doing things etc are conflicting with his way of doing things.Right that's why he don't act like a typical leo. Yeah I hope so.. to find the same taste in decoration...I ll keep u posted ❤️
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sorry about the situation and... I hear you, I would feel the same... I mean, if you are going to move in with him, why shouldn't you have a say to where/which house you will have to live in? I honestly dont find this to be fair and I wonder why you were not considered in the choice of the house...? this is just my personal opinion and feel to actually express my support for you!
Looking at the Composite (didn't I already look at it in the past?) the Saturn/Chiron/Pluto t-square especially with Pluto falling in the 4th and Saturn falling in the 7th house, doesn't look too promising and suggests a power struggle/conflicting situation putting the relationship at risk, with the 4th house involved this may point to negative external factors as family environment.
The transits situation is a bit complictated and doesn't look too favourable. Transiting nodes are square to Venus opp. Lilith, but they had just travelled through the nodes in reverse, so this seems a crucial moment when the future of your relationship will be shaped with no way back. Transiting Jupiter is conjunct Saturn opposite to the Venus/Mars midpoint conjunct Chiron and square to Pluto, so the t-square is triggered in a stressful way. especially tr. Jupiter conj Saturn square to Pluto is triggering conflicts, disagreements, power struggle, a very harsh wall is arising between you two and your individual choices are on opposite sides. Moreover, transiting Saturn is square to the IC/MC axis involving Moon and opposite Sun/Mercury. This is a very frustrating situation and your intimate and emotional exchange is at stake and being damaged by the current disagreements. With tr. Saturn square to the axis, external influences are in the pcture negatively, but it also casts a shadow on the relationship future.Transiting Neptune is square to the Nodes, giving a lot of insecurity about the future.There is a big compromise here to be established. The nodes square to Venus at this moment may help you find an agreement, but with tr. mercury square Pluto and opposite Chiron communication is very difficult, it may take another week before you may re-connect on a more harmonious way... even so, tr. Saturn will head to comp. DSC and then to comp. Saturn, so your relationship will be put to a definitive test.
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Hi efaki94sorry about the situation and... I hear you, I would feel the same... I mean, if you are going to move in with him, why shouldn't you have a say to where/which house you will have to live in? I honestly dont find this to be fair and I wonder why you were not considered in the choice of the house...? this is just my personal opinion and feel to actually express my support for you!Looking at the Composite (didn't I already look at it in the past?) the Saturn/Chiron/Pluto t-square especially with Pluto falling in the 4th and Saturn falling in the 7th house, doesn't look too promising and suggests a power struggle/conflicting situation putting the relationship at risk, with the 4th house involved this may point to negative external factors as family environment.The transits situation is a bit complictated and doesn't look too favourable. Transiting nodes are square to Venus opp. Lilith, but they had just travelled through the nodes in reverse, so this seems a crucial moment when the future of your relationship will be shaped with no way back. Transiting Jupiter is conjunct Saturn opposite to the Venus/Mars midpoint conjunct Chiron and square to Pluto, so the t-square is triggered in a stressful way. especially tr. Jupiter conj Saturn square to Pluto is triggering conflicts, disagreements, power struggle, a very harsh wall is arising between you two and your individual choices are on opposite sides. Moreover, transiting Saturn is square to the IC/MC axis involving Moon and opposite Sun/Mercury. This is a very frustrating situation and your intimate and emotional exchange is at stake and being damaged by the current disagreements. With tr. Saturn square to the axis, external influences are in the pcture negatively, but it also casts a shadow on the relationship future.Transiting Neptune is square to the Nodes, giving a lot of insecurity about the future.There is a big compromise here to be established. The nodes square to Venus at this moment may help you find an agreement, but with tr. mercury square Pluto and opposite Chiron communication is very difficult, it may take another week before you may re-connect on a more harmonious way... even so, tr. Saturn will head to comp. DSC and then to comp. Saturn, so your relationship will be put to a definitive test.
stoika thanks for your repsonse.yes you have check our composite more than once..haha <3
well to be honest at first i didnt even thinkthat i should see the houses with him and his parents because he didnt even ask me to go with them. but now i realised (like you) that this isnt fair . we had already told that we ll stay together when they were watching houses.and his parents knew that he is planning to stay with me.i feel left out for sure.
by the way his mother told him that she will coming for sleep at night to his new houseand he told her that this is not gonna happen.so im not sure how annoying she would be and how privacy will i have.
i feel like the only solution is to break up.and i dont even care like i did in the past.
so you say transit saturn in our 7th would keep us together or break up for sure???
should i try to stay with him at least??just your opinion.im already a mess so nothing can make me worse. <3
As for the situation... I understand, since it is about his house, maybe you just trusted his choice or didnt feel to impose yours, which is fair, but the fact that he didnt involve you doesnt sound so fair to me....
I can only tell you my personal experience... when my husband was given a family house and I was somehow forced to move in there, I really didnt like the house and the area, I just had negative feelings and never felt at ease in that house... well, I have got very sick, physically, while living in that house, and that sickness has ruined my life forever, even though then, a few years later, we moved to another house.... I'm obviously not saying that this is what may happen to you, but I just mean that sometimes it is better to follow our intuition about such things... and, in any case, to live in a house where you don't feel comfortable for whatever reason, is not something I would suggest (unless there's really no alternative, of course!)❤️
Also in your other thread you said you rejected his engagement proposal. You also said you didn’t wanna live together initially but now you do because you’ve become jealous...so my qn is: what kind of rs future do you hope to have with him? I think it’s good to search within yourself and have a talk. With tr Saturn on your DSC it will force the issues out. It will test your rs endurance and see how mature you both are in resolving differences, accepting obligations etc. Your comp Sun-Moon square is saying you need to work on understanding each other and be supportive.
As for his mom, you should tell him your concerns that you don’t want his mom to be hanging around all the time and you need your privacy, then it’s up to him to draw the boundaries with her.
What I’m saying is don’t be impulsive but have a rs talk first to set your expectations and clear the air. Breaking up should be your last resort.
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Transiting Saturn on DSC and then, later this year, on Composite Saturn may bring a closure because it will put a huge burden to the Composite Saturn/Pluto/Chiron t-square. This looks extremely stressful... I think it's possible that with these current transits you both will try to work for a compromise, but if you choose to keep the relationship transiting Saturn will trigger more conflicts...I don't feel to suggest you to break up, because this depends on your love for him and willpower to make it work out... but certainly transits are strongly challenging your relationship. With the reversal nodal transit to comp. nodes, any decision at this moment is crucial and there won't be any way back.As for the situation... I understand, since it is about his house, maybe you just trusted his choice or didnt feel to impose yours, which is fair, but the fact that he didnt involve you doesnt sound so fair to me....I can only tell you my personal experience... when my husband was given a family house and I was somehow forced to move in there, I really didnt like the house and the area, I just had negative feelings and never felt at ease in that house... well, I have got very sick, physically, while living in that house, and that sickness has ruined my life forever, even though then, a few years later, we moved to another house.... I'm obviously not saying that this is what may happen to you, but I just mean that sometimes it is better to follow our intuition about such things... and, in any case, to live in a house where you don't feel comfortable for whatever reason, is not something I would suggest (unless there's really no alternative, of course!)❤️
ok i see.this saturn pluto sounds very hard.i prefer to end things for ever or to stay together happily. i dont like the between.so hope for this saturn to make things clear for us.
well as i remember how the things happened now that im a little calmerhe and his mother saw 3 houses and of course he didnt invite me to join thembut maybe that have to do with him thinking that his parents may watch houses but they didnt have the will to buy him the house.i remember him complain to me that his parentswas only WORDS and nothing about action(TO BUY THE HOUSE) . they were talking about buying a house a long time till now but they didnt do anything.so he might believed that it wasnt gonna happen.after they had agree to buy the house but beforegiving some money to close the agreementmy bf asked me to go with them and check the housebut i didnt want because of his parents.maybe i want to justify him right nowin order not to think that he simply dont consider me in his choices.but if it matters he ask me to see the house.but even if i had went there and told him that i dont like the house i think it wouldnt make a difference.
also after i realised that he should take my opinion into account i made a conversation with him and he said that he dont find something wrong in his behavior because its HIS parents who buing HIM a house and i dont have a word in that. so im just visitor in this house i guess. sure his was very pressed when he said that because we had already argue about other thing before but he still mean it.
i see what you mean thereour instict rarely is wrongand we should follow it.sorry to hear thatare you ok now??
quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29:@efaki94Probably because of the culture I grew up in, I actually don’t see this issue warranting a breakup. But before I make such a judgement I’m curious though... what about the house that you dislike so much? Do you feel that something is “wrong” with the place? I agree he should have included you in the house hunting since you’re gonna live there but did you voice out when he didn’t? You can’t assume he knows how you feel, ya? Also in your other thread you said you rejected his engagement proposal. You also said you didn’t wanna live together initially but now you do because you’ve become jealous...so my qn is: what kind of rs future do you hope to have with him? I think it’s good to search within yourself and have a talk. With tr Saturn on your DSC it will force the issues out. It will test your rs endurance and see how mature you both are in resolving differences, accepting obligations etc. Your comp Sun-Moon square is saying you need to work on understanding each other and be supportive.As for his mom, you should tell him your concerns that you don’t want his mom to be hanging around all the time and you need your privacy, then it’s up to him to draw the boundaries with her. What I’m saying is don’t be impulsive but have a rs talk first to set your expectations and clear the air. Breaking up should be your last resort.
hello hikaruthanks for responsewell i didnt said anything at firstbecause i didnt felt like i should watch the houses with them .i didnt felt comfortablyi would feel a little outside to be therebut now that i see clearly it was unfair for me and after i discussed it he said that it wasnt my job to be therebecause his parents buying him a house.after thata told him that if thehouse was like a hutand i didnt like it i would be forced to live there because he and his parents choose it??!!and he repsonsed "you have free will to do whatever you want" so suddenly he dont give a #$%@ if we will live tohether.when some months ago he almost pleasing me to stay with him and not alone.
the house isnt so bad but there is a lot of traffic and noises out there because its in the avenue when im used to live in almost a cottage area when rarely you see a car outside.i would like it if it wasa little calmer outside.
i didnt refuse his proposal because he didnt do any. he told me that he was gonna do it after he had return the ring to the store.he changed his mind when he heard my opinion about marriage and engament.
the truth is that i didnt want at first t stay with him but after some thought i change dmy mind.
i try to make a conversation with himbut i simply canthe always says that i create problemsand always complainwhich is true sometimesbut he dont really listen me.
well, it seems that things developed a bit out of your control and it's not your fault, I think that Composite Neptune square Jupiter has a role because it can create such unclear situations and insecurities about plans, actions, misurnderstandings and so on... but it sounds also that he really didnt encourage you much in being involved in the process... maybe without realizing and while being stressed out from his family?
Consider that you have transiting Uranus conjunct composite Moon and square to Composite Sun... this happens as tr. Saturn is currently conjunct to Composite Sun and tr. Jupiter is conjunct Composite Saturn... the latter one is called "Grand Conjunction" and it usually happens when there's a big establishment/achievement. But with transiting Uranus square to comp. Sun, such establishement is happening in a stressful, abrupt and unstable way. With this transits, I would suggest you to not take a hasty decision which you may regret later. I think you may still give it a try to talk with him, make things clear, explain your feelings, insecurities and the misunderstandings... go see the house again and see what feelings you have. If he cares about you, he needs to show this and to understand your needs and doubts... this way you will see if he cares of you, I guess. I agree about not liking the between, but as I said, it depends... happyness sometimes is something we need to build up from both sides of the relationship, not something that you find already packed :-) But then, of course, if unhappyness is what prevails despite the efforts, then you have to make your choice :-)
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quote:Originally posted by efaki94: hello hikaruthanks for responsewell i didnt said anything at firstbecause i didnt felt like i should watch the houses with them .i didnt felt comfortablyi would feel a little outside to be therebut now that i see clearly it was unfair for me and after i discussed it he said that it wasnt my job to be therebecause his parents buying him a house.after thata told him that if thehouse was like a hutand i didnt like it i would be forced to live there because he and his parents choose it??!!and he repsonsed "you have free will to do whatever you want" so suddenly he dont give a #$%@ if we will live tohether.when some months ago he almost pleasing me to stay with him and not alone.the house isnt so bad but there is a lot of traffic and noises out there because its in the avenue when im used to live in almost a cottage area when rarely you see a car outside.i would like it if it wasa little calmer outside.i didnt refuse his proposal because he didnt do any. he told me that he was gonna do it after he had return the ring to the store.he changed his mind when he heard my opinion about marriage and engament.the truth is that i didnt want at first t stay with him but after some thought i change dmy mind.i try to make a conversation with himbut i simply canthe always says that i create problemsand always complainwhich is true sometimesbut he dont really listen me.
It sounds like you and your bf have some misunderstandings. I noticed you have strong Gemini in your chart (we have ASCs conjunct btw 🙂 . This sign can appear to flip-flop at times and he may feel confused and think you’re trying to be difficult although that’s not your intention. Why don’t you try using a different communication approach? Being Leo Suns you are both proud. His Aries Moon gives him an impulsive/brash nature but his Virgo stellium shows his very analytical side and he may not be comfortable with emotional drama.
Your composite Moon square Mercury and Mercury-Pluto-Saturn also forms a t-square showing difficulty in communication. On one hand you’re not clear in expressing yourselves, on the other hand you don’t give each other air time, more eager to prove each other wrong. His Mercury in analytical Virgo while yours in emotionally driven Cancer so my advice is to work on understanding each other’s communication styles and thought processes.
Why don’t you try spending a few nights at his new place and maybe you will grow to like it? Since you can’t choose the place but I’m sure you have a say in the deco? A lot of times relationship is about coming in-between, compromising, sacrificing... sometimes one will compromise/sacrifice more than the other but there should be a balance. There are very very few perfectly happy couples out there based on my observation, which is to say I’ve never seen a perfect chart.
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:This year I celebrate the first one year I'm standing up and walking again after 18 years :-) Thank you for asking!
Stoika, I feel really happy for ya! 🙂 Stay well.
Btw I meant to tell you that you were right about your prediction that you saw tension and separation transits for me and my guy. We had several fights over the last 2 months and I almost broke up with him, but we managed to reconcile, cleared the air about some mounting misunderstandings I had of him so now we’re much calmer and sweeter. The glue is still strong. *Fingers crossed*. ✌🏼
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:efaki94 ❤️well, it seems that things developed a bit out of your control and it's not your fault, I think that Composite Neptune square Jupiter has a role because it can create such unclear situations and insecurities about plans, actions, misurnderstandings and so on... but it sounds also that he really didnt encourage you much in being involved in the process... maybe without realizing and while being stressed out from his family?Consider that you have transiting Uranus conjunct composite Moon and square to Composite Sun... this happens as tr. Saturn is currently conjunct to Composite Sun and tr. Jupiter is conjunct Composite Saturn... the latter one is called "Grand Conjunction" and it usually happens when there's a big establishment/achievement. But with transiting Uranus square to comp. Sun, such establishement is happening in a stressful, abrupt and unstable way. With this transits, I would suggest you to not take a hasty decision which you may regret later. I think you may still give it a try to talk with him, make things clear, explain your feelings, insecurities and the misunderstandings... go see the house again and see what feelings you have. If he cares about you, he needs to show this and to understand your needs and doubts... this way you will see if he cares of you, I guess. I agree about not liking the between, but as I said, it depends... happyness sometimes is something we need to build up from both sides of the relationship, not something that you find already packed :-) But then, of course, if unhappyness is what prevails despite the efforts, then you have to make your choice :-)This year I celebrate the first one year I'm standing up and walking again after 18 years :-) Thank you for asking!
right he didnt encourage me i think he didnt even think about itand thats the worse.but does it matter that when i went to the house with his parents there he started asking me about what furniture should we have??in front of his parents??i mean this seems good maybe??or i just want to justify him again.hahaalso like he said he made it clearly (he said) to his parents that he is going to decorate the house with me so to not planning anything by themselves.
Ok i see.thanks for explaining to me this transits it sounds really "heavy" with uranus and saturn butcould this establishment happen after that transit you think?
right i wont take any decision yet because we already have two days to talk and i check my phone for his call all day. haha
thats really great .. so happy for that. <3
quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: It sounds like you and your bf have some misunderstandings. I noticed you have strong Gemini in your chart (we have ASCs conjunct btw 🙂 . This sign can appear to flip-flop at times and he may feel confused and think you’re trying to be difficult although that’s not your intention. Why don’t you try using a different communication approach? Being Leo Suns you are both proud. His Aries Moon gives him an impulsive/brash nature but his Virgo stellium shows his very analytical side and he may not be comfortable with emotional drama.Your composite Moon square Mercury and Mercury-Pluto-Saturn also forms a t-square showing difficulty in communication. On one hand you’re not clear in expressing yourselves, on the other hand you don’t give each other air time, more eager to prove each other wrong. His Mercury in analytical Virgo while yours in emotionally driven Cancer so my advice is to work on understanding each other’s communication styles and thought processes. Why don’t you try spending a few nights at his new place and maybe you will grow to like it? Since you can’t choose the place but I’m sure you have a say in the deco? A lot of times relationship is about coming in-between, compromising, sacrificing... sometimes one will compromise/sacrifice more than the other but there should be a balance. There are very very few perfectly happy couples out there based on my observation, which is to say I’ve never seen a perfect chart.
right hikaru there are few times that we dont misunderstand the other. out communication seems very hard the most of the time .
aww you are a gemini asc tooso you know ..hahato be honest i feel more like a piscesthan leo or gemini..dont know why,but i see your pointand the truth is that my bf had told me that in the pastthat he cant always predict and trust my feelings and words.
it takes so much time for us to get over a fightlike we have to argue for the same thing for days till we have to take a break and not talk to each one for some daysand after that we may talk a little calmer and find a between solution
but the same thing happens every timeevery diasagree lead to argue and its like talking to the wall.he dont take my feeelings seriously i think thats the problem.
the truth is that he havent moved yetbecause there is some paper work before thatbut im planning to do soif we dont break it up till then
you are right about the decorationhe said me the same thingi hope he meant itthat we are gonna decorate the house as we want
there is another problem alsomy grandma have two catsand i wanted to take the onebecause is to much for herbut also i dont want to separete thembecause they are friendsand of course my bf dont want two cats
quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Stoika, I feel really happy for ya! 🙂 Stay well. Btw I meant to tell you that you were right about your prediction that you saw tension and separation transits for me and my guy. We had several fights over the last 2 months and I almost broke up with him, but we managed to reconcile, cleared the air about some mounting misunderstandings I had of him so now we’re much calmer and sweeter. The glue is still strong. *Fingers crossed*. ✌🏼
Hi darling, thank you for sharing the happyness :-))
Well, I am glad you guys reconciled, you are aware that there are those unstable aspects in your Composite and so, depending on transits, those ups and downs can resurface, but you always seem to manage things well in the end! If you need any help, feel free to write me! ❤️❤️❤️
I think transiting Saturn will make the whole process stressful, but Saturn square Pluto sometimes can also bring a struggle for resolution/success/achievement, especially with tr. Jupiter conjunct Saturn in the picture, that's why I am saying to give this whole house thing a chance before taking extreme decisions... it all looks like a major test to your relationship and it will work out if you both care enough to make efforts in your relationship.
Give us updates ❤️
quote:Originally posted by efaki94: right hikaru there are few times that we dont misunderstand the other. out communication seems very hard the most of the time .aww you are a gemini asc tooso you know ..hahato be honest i feel more like a piscesthan leo or gemini..dont know why,but i see your pointand the truth is that my bf had told me that in the pastthat he cant always predict and trust my feelings and words.it takes so much time for us to get over a fightlike we have to argue for the same thing for days till we have to take a break and not talk to each one for some daysand after that we may talk a little calmer and find a between solutionbut the same thing happens every timeevery diasagree lead to argue and its like talking to the wall.he dont take my feeelings seriously i think thats the problem.the truth is that he havent moved yetbecause there is some paper work before thatbut im planning to do soif we dont break it up till thenyou are right about the decorationhe said me the same thingi hope he meant itthat we are gonna decorate the house as we wantthere is another problem alsomy grandma have two catsand i wanted to take the onebecause is to much for herbut also i dont want to separete thembecause they are friendsand of course my bf dont want two cats
Your Mercury opposes Neptune and Venus trine Neptune...maybe that’s why you feel like a Pisces. With Mercury opposite Neptune you need to watch out for flawed perception of reality. Sometimes you may be confused what’s real and what’s background noise in your mind, resulting in unclear communication... yet Uranus opposite Mercury can lead to over-stimulation of mind. His Virgo Mercury is matter-of-fact and detailed and it quincunx Saturn restricting his mindset so I think that’s why you have a hard time understanding each other.
His Mercury is closely square your Moon. Read this from cafeastrology:“Mercury needs to guard against the tendency to be critical, unsympathetic, and overly analytical of Moon’s feelings, personal tastes, and habits. Mercury may feel that Moon is overly sensitive to criticism, and refuses to acknowledge responsibility for the problem as well. Petty annoyances, minor disagreements, and bickering can be avoided only if you both learn to listen sympathetically and to communicate clearly with each other. Avoid focusing on “syntax errors” with each other. How things are said are not as important as the meaning behind them. Taking things too personally can get in the way of true communication.”
Your Mercury is in square sign to his Moon too actually so that’s a DW, that’s why this is showing up in your composite.
I believe the way to get around your communication issue is to first seek to understand. Clearing the air of past issues will be a good start. Also read up on the differences between Virgo and Gemini. These two signs seem to have a high level of attraction as both are mutable and ruled by Mercury, but they’re in square signs so some work is needed. https://www.astrology.com/love/compatibility/gemini-virgo.html
Good luck! 🙂
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7: Hi darling, thank you for sharing the happyness :-))Well, I am glad you guys reconciled, you are aware that there are those unstable aspects in your Composite and so, depending on transits, those ups and downs can resurface, but you always seem to manage things well in the end! If you need any help, feel free to write me! ❤️❤️❤️
Amazingly, yes, we always come back to each other and it’s largely his effort, I must say. He has been more persevering than me.
Remember you said you saw some kind of biz arrangement between us? Well, the plans are taking shape. He’s taking the lead and making things happen. I’m not sure if that’s his way of keeping me in his life but the venture benefits me so I’m keen. Can you help me take a look at the transits and how our working rs will be like? It’s not a strictly-structured full-time arrangement which means he’s giving me a lot of work flexibility. I’ll write to you on this. 🙂 💕
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Well I guess he trusts you more than he trusts his parents about the furnitures, lolWho knows, maybe he just assumed you would be happy about the whole house thing and didnt realize he was actually keeping you in the fog... and it all depends also on what kind of relationship he has with his parents, but it would be crazy if he didnt even involve you in the furniture choice!I think transiting Saturn will make the whole process stressful, but Saturn square Pluto sometimes can also bring a struggle for resolution/success/achievement, especially with tr. Jupiter conjunct Saturn in the picture, that's why I am saying to give this whole house thing a chance before taking extreme decisions... it all looks like a major test to your relationship and it will work out if you both care enough to make efforts in your relationship.Give us updates ❤️
haha ..i guess.. if he didnt ask me at least about the furniture i dont know what i would do..he seems close to his family but he knows to set boundaries from what i seethe thing im afraid of is that he might feelthat he "owe them" for buying him the house in some wayso i hope that he wont change his behavior to them..
hope for the best side of saturnhaha
i ll keep you posted ..in one two months i hopeto have a better view of the situation...thanks a lot stoika for one more time <3wish u the best!!!
quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Your Mercury opposes Neptune and Venus trine Neptune...maybe that’s why you feel like a Pisces. With Mercury opposite Neptune you need to watch out for flawed perception of reality. Sometimes you may be confused what’s real and what’s background noise in your mind, resulting in unclear communication... yet Uranus opposite Mercury can lead to over-stimulation of mind. His Virgo Mercury is matter-of-fact and detailed and it quincunx Saturn restricting his mindset so I think that’s why you have a hard time understanding each other.His Mercury is closely square your Moon. Read this from cafeastrology:[b]“Mercury needs to guard against the tendency to be critical, unsympathetic, and overly analytical of Moon’s feelings, personal tastes, and habits. Mercury may feel that Moon is overly sensitive to criticism, and refuses to acknowledge responsibility for the problem as well. Petty annoyances, minor disagreements, and bickering can be avoided only if you both learn to listen sympathetically and to communicate clearly with each other. Avoid focusing on “syntax errors” with each other. How things are said are not as important as the meaning behind them. Taking things too personally can get in the way of true communication.”Your Mercury is in square sign to his Moon too actually so that’s a DW, that’s why this is showing up in your composite. I believe the way to get around your communication issue is to first seek to understand. Clearing the air of past issues will be a good start. Also read up on the differences between Virgo and Gemini. These two signs seem to have a high level of attraction as both are mutable and ruled by Mercury, but they’re in square signs so some work is needed. https://www.astrology.com/love/compatibility/gemini-virgo.html Good luck! 🙂[/B]
His Mercury is closely square your Moon. Read this from cafeastrology:[b]“Mercury needs to guard against the tendency to be critical, unsympathetic, and overly analytical of Moon’s feelings, personal tastes, and habits. Mercury may feel that Moon is overly sensitive to criticism, and refuses to acknowledge responsibility for the problem as well. Petty annoyances, minor disagreements, and bickering can be avoided only if you both learn to listen sympathetically and to communicate clearly with each other. Avoid focusing on “syntax errors” with each other. How things are said are not as important as the meaning behind them. Taking things too personally can get in the way of true communication.”
Good luck! 🙂[/B]
yeah you r right thats why my mind might work like a pisce's hahamy bf tend to tell me that i have unrealistic dreams (for example because i want to leave the city and live in new zealand someday) and he accuse me for that like i live in my own world..so he seems too realistic sometimesby the way he has a wide trine of uranus mercury shouldnt he be more open mind and chill?By the way me as a virgo venus shouldn't relate more to his tastes and opinions??
this description of mercury mooncouldnt describe the situation better.sad truth.
i ll make a research about gemini virgo like you saidto delight me hahahope to find a way to reallt commuicate withhim
thank you very much hikaru!! i ll come in this post when i ll have news!!
quote:Originally posted by efaki94: yeah you r right thats why my mind might work like a pisce's hahamy bf tend to tell me that i have unrealistic dreams (for example because i want to leave the city and live in new zealand someday) and he accuse me for that like i live in my own world..so he seems too realistic sometimesby the way he has a wide trine of uranus mercury shouldnt he be more open mind and chill?By the way me as a virgo venus shouldn't relate more to his tastes and opinions?? this description of mercury mooncouldnt describe the situation better.sad truth.i ll make a research about gemini virgo like you saidto delight me hahahope to find a way to reallt commuicate withhimthank you very much hikaru!! i ll come in this post when i ll have news!!
Mercury-Uranus relate to having a quick mind but in my observation I don’t see the individuals as necessarily having an open mindset, not saying you can’t be but this isn’t a trademark I see. Don’t forget he has a Virgo stellium and when someone has a stellium in a certain sign they’re gonna display strongly traits associated with that sign. My ex has a Leo stellium and despite his more sensitive/introverted Cancer Sun, he’s proud, egoistic, love in a big way...he walks in with an entrance and loves the attention.
Venus rules our love styles, values and tastes so in this area you relate (which means to say you won’t have issues agreeing on how to decorate your house and spend time together 😉...) but don’t forget your Gemini stellium which squares Virgo. This shows that other areas involving your emotions, how you approach life/go about doing things etc are conflicting with his way of doing things.
quote:Originally posted by Hikaru29: Mercury-Uranus relate to having a quick mind but in my observation I don’t see the individuals as necessarily having an open mindset, not saying you can’t be but this isn’t a trademark I see. Don’t forget he has a Virgo stellium and when someone has a stellium in a certain sign they’re gonna display strongly traits associated with that sign. My ex has a Leo stellium and despite his more sensitive/introverted Cancer Sun, he’s proud, egoistic, love in a big way...he walks in with an entrance and loves the attention.Venus rules our love styles, values and tastes so in this area you relate (which means to say you won’t have issues agreeing on how to decorate your house and spend time together 😉...) but don’t forget your Gemini stellium which squares Virgo. This shows that other areas involving your emotions, how you approach life/go about doing things etc are conflicting with his way of doing things.
Right that's why he don't act like a typical leo.
Yeah I hope so.. to find the same taste in decoration...I ll keep u posted ❤️
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